How to Talk About Moving?

At Encore, we know that deciding when it’s time to look for help or move into a community can be a difficult decision for the entire family. And starting a conversation with a loved one about a potential move can be fraught with stress and anxiety. But we also understand the importance of having an open dialogue to prevent an unwanted crisis or emergency.

Here are some tips for talking to a loved one about moving to a senior living community:

• Planning. Tour relevant communities and gather information before a family meeting to have the knowledge you need to assist everyone in the decision-making process. Bring a detailed list of the concerns involved (senior is not getting sufficient nutrition, or social isolation) and why the move would be beneficial (dining rooms with meals, increased activity, housekeeping, etc.).

• Timing. Choose a time and place that has less distractions and can involve all family members and decisions makers in the process. You may also want to include friends or trusted advocates to assist your loved one.

• Empowerment. Listen to the concerns of all involved, and make a list of the pros and cons for moving. Encourage the senior to visit the communities on your list and discover what options are out there and help them make the decision for themselves.

• Decision. If the decision is to move, now is the time to start looking at finances and what can be accomplished at particular communities. If the decision is put on hold, continue to encourage your loved one to visit the communities on your list. Many communities also provide an opportunity for seniors to spend a free weekend or a few days at the community to learn the benefits firsthand. Oftentimes, resistance is mainly fear of the unknown.

When Is the Time to Move?:
Many times, families have to make decisions that are in the interest of a senior or loved one when additional assistance in daily living is needed. Here are some questions to ask to determine whether or not additional care and assistance is needed:
• Does your loved one spend a lot of time alone?
• Are they eating regular and nutritious meals?
• Are they able to make payments for their essentials?
• Are they having difficulty bathing?
• Do you worry about their medication management?
• Is the home or yard declining?
• Is there a concern about driving skills?